Why Advice to "Man Up" is Flawed

For those looking for a bottom line to this topic, it is this: Don't simply repress your emotions, or put on a mask of toughness; instead, learn the techniques, skills, and strategies for developing grit and resiliency. But there is more than just Positiv

Since I first scuffled with bigger boys on the playground I was told by teachers, adults, and peers to have a thicker skin. Through my teen years and into adulthood I was told to man up, toughen up, and grow up. In my early adult life I was told to be more assertive.

I did my best.

Yet throughout it all, I intuitively knew these messages were somehow flaw…